Male Multiple Orgasms

Multiple orgasms for women are legendary. Some women claim to have dozens of orgasms in a long sex session, often making guys feel mopey and inferior because they think they could never come anywhere near turning in a performance like that.

Well, think again. Men are just as capable of having multiple orgasms as women. It's surprisingly easy. Take it from your Sex Coach. The primary ingredient is information - you simply need to know how it's done. The main reason why more men don't experience it is that they never hear about it so they don't try to make it happen.

You'll never see multiple orgasms in porn movies. A prerequisite for multiple orgasms is slow motion fucking or slow masturbation, and that's just too serene for XXX video. Despite how wonderful they feel when they're happening to you, multiple orgasms aren't visually enthralling, not by today's cum shot standards, anyway. You see, a multiple orgasm is not a multiple ejaculation. Most of the action happens inside the pleasure center of your brain and is not clearly visible in the way a cum shot is.

In porn movies, a man says, "I'm cumming" and delivers his load. Men often think that this cum shot is an orgasm. In porn, semen proves orgasm.

Here's the deal: Men need to understand that there's a big difference between an orgasm and an ejaculation. So listen up: Ejaculation is wet; orgasm is dry.
An ejaculation is the spurting of semen. It's wet. Most men experience an orgasm when they ejaculate, but not always.
Orgasm is the shuddering and sweet burning sensation that engulfs your cock and balls. The sensation often fans outward throughout your entire body. It's dry.

For most men, ejaculations feel great because orgasm and ejaculation occur simultaneously. This happens with such regularity that men don't consider the possibility that the two events are different.

The absolutely cool thing is that you can separate orgasms and ejaculations. You can have one without the other. That lets you enjoy the sweet shudders deep down inside your cock and balls, which you can enjoy repeatedly unless you ejaculate.
As soon as you ejaculate, it's curtains for awhile unless you're young and extremely virile. Knowing how to delay your ejaculation is a great skill. The more you delay ejaculating, the more orgasms you'll feel-as many as you want before shooting your cream.

In male multiple orgasms, the whole trick is to get as close to the ejaculation trigger as possible without tripping the firing switch. This requires becoming very sensitive to your body's sexual response. You need to know with precise accuracy when to stop thrusting-or moving at all. One micromove too far and you've tripped the Spurt switch. Pay close attention to what happens as you near orgasm. When you're not thrusting hard and out of breath, you can feel the pressure of semen creeping up inside your balls. When you feel that, you know you're close, and it's time to exert extra control. Stop thrusting. Stop moving. Let the feeling of orgasm fade for at least ten seconds or more. Then, ever so slowly, start moving your penis again. You may like the standard in-and-out movements, or you may start moving from side to side or in circular motions.

A delightful thing to do when you're close to ejaculation is to totally stop thrusting and to stay snugly buried inside your lover's pussy. Then contract the muscles inside your dick (the same muscles you'd use to stop a flow of urine). If you're relaxed and close to ejaculation, you'll feel an orgasm just from doing that. (Your lover could, too.) The closer you get to ejaculating, the more you need to rest between contractions.

It's like learning how to ride a bicycle. You may fall off a few times, or in this case cum before you really want to. But once you get the coordination going between your brain and your penis, you'll be able to do it virtually any time you want and for as long as you want.

Five minutes of this kind of orgasmic pleasure is pretty incredible, but people have been known to go much longer. At least one book on the subject has boasted about extended orgasmic episodes that last for an hour or more.

Multiple orgasms dramatically change sex lives. The more control of your body you master, the more orgasms you'll have. Keep in mind that this isn't athletic competition or an endurance test; multiple orgasms are the natural result of slowing down and being tuned in to your body.

Meanwhile, your slow-motion pace provides a much different experience for your lover. She's not poised to take on a jack hammering. As she relaxes, her serene state of mind and body rewards her with strong orgasmic responses. When you move extra slow or stay still inside her, she uses her circumvaginal muscles to put a milking pleasure hold on your lucky dick. A relaxed yet erect penis pulsates, and she'll learn how blissful it feels to squeeze that boy toy repeatedly.

Now granted, multiple orgasms occur naturally, yet it still takes patience and practice to master this new approach to sex. Don't be frustrated with the learning curve. Learn from your failures and revel in your successes.

This is a sexual style you'd probably reserve for someone you love and trust. Orgasmic bliss stretched out beyond the normal ten seconds to five, ten, fifteen minutes or more is a major awakening for the brain. Making love during an orgasmic wave state can be very emotional, possibly moving you or your lover to tears. The freer you can be to feel and express your emotions when you're in this magical state, the more intimate and meaningful it will be as you're rocked to the core by the shudders of the gods.

Jacking off still harbors heaps of garbage with it as a shameful, self-absorbing activity primarily engaged in by the needy, desperate, and perverse, yet studies show that it's very common-and nowhere nearly as despised by the millions of people doing it. For men, that's great news because it's a superior way to learn how to produce multiple orgasms.

Here are some good reasons to take up the sport of solo sex (just in case you aren't already practicing): You can enjoy multiple orgasms whether or not you are involved in a relationship or your lover is in the mood. If you aren't in a relationship, you can still master the techniques and have something awesome to share with a new lover.

Solo sex gives you total control over your sexual organs. You have total hand-dick-brain coordination. It's not the same thing when someone else gives you a hand job because that person is not inside your brain and doesn't feel what you feel.
It's something you're doing to learn about your own body, and it's teaching you how to be sensual. If guilt and shame come up for you during solo sex, you may want to perform an attitude adjustment. Going solo is not a last resort and doing it doesn't mean you're less of a man.
Jacking off gives you an opportunity to fully enjoy video porn or cybersex in an even more pleasing way. You'll like solo sex better when you can choose to bask in orgasmic shudders from minutes to hours.

Use a good lubricant. I find that the best way to do it is with skin lotion or a personal lubricant such as Astroglide. Lubes render a silky smooth feel and will let you better control your movements, especially when you're very close to ejaculating and need to go particularly slow.
If you are new to using condoms and want to check out how they work, this is a good way to learn both multiple orgasms and condom use.
Try thinking of this as a special time you spend with yourself. Make yourself as comfy as possible and create an atmosphere that you like. You could be at this for an hour or so.

Apply your favorite lube to your penis. If you're using something visual or your mental stimulation, leap into it. Stroke yourself with your closed fist in your favorite way until you reach the point when you feel the first signs of ejaculation, then stop. Pause for a few seconds as the feeling subsides, then gently stroke again until the orgasmic feelings reappear. Then pause again.

Keep up this same pattern of stroking and resting for as long as you wish. As you continue, strive to inch closer and closer to the point of no return. You may feel driven to finally pop it, especially if you are excited by a thought or a visual, but hold off if you can. (No harm if you can't. Enjoy the blast and try for longer next time.)

By pausing, then reaching orgasm, pausing, then reaching orgasm again, and continuing that way, you'll enter into a blissful state where waves of pleasure swirl through your penis-and your brain. You'll also feel waves of tingles fanning out into your body. Every time you resist ejaculating, your orgasms will build in intensity. With practice, you'll get very good at inventing the right stroking style to surf an orgasmic wave without wiping out.

When you've got your control down, you can continue experiencing orgasmic waves for a major long time, like over an hour. By then you'll develop perfect timing with your solo stroking, and can work yourself up into an amazing state of arousal. Practice makes perfect. Inevitably, you'll have times when you miscue. You'll squeeze just a wee bit too heavy on the stroking, and you'll pop before you really intended to. When this happens, your ejaculation may seem really feeble. No big deal. Your orgasm got out of sync with your ejaculation, which is one way to tell that orgasm and ejaculation are, indeed, two separate events.

As you progress, you may also discover that your final spurt is not as wildly exciting as you'd think. By then you may have had a couple dozen orgasms over a five to ten minutes interval, the final eruption, while wet, may seem slightly anticlimactic. No worries. You're shifting your pleasure to the middle rather than saving it all up for a grand blast at the end.

Experiment with different hand grips on your penis, especially soft and slow ones. Some stroking applies lots of friction to the head of the penis. When you're riding orgasmic waves, loosen up and experiment with grips that don't cause as much friction.

Anything you do to relax your whole body helps. If you're good at visualizing or meditating, incorporate those skills with your solo sex. Become aware of techniques or sensations that you especially enjoy and figure how you might incorporate them into your lovemaking with a partner.

If you have a partner with whom you want to share the pleasures of multiple orgasms, masturbate together. By doing this, you can communicate more clearly in "Show & Tell" fashion about what's going with you in this new way of sexual blissing. Unlike what you may think, many women are fascinated by a man masturbating, especially when he is sensuous, open to sharing his secrets, and it's a consensual demo.

As we'll discuss in more detail next time, some fundamental changes happen for a man who experiences multiple orgasms regularly. You need to be able to communicate to your partner what these changes are.

As you learn how to create multiple orgasms, you may lose your appetite for sexual activities you once adored. You may quickly realize that you enjoy surfing those long, luxurious orgasmic waves much more than other activites.

For example, say that before learning about multiple orgasm, you were a big fan of receiving blowjobs. As pulse-pounding as fellatio may be, it still delivers an orgasm under ten seconds in duration. Once you've basked in five or more minutes of bliss from deep within your balls (and, we mustn't forget, your brain), that flash in the pan probably won't cut it anymore.

Predictably, men lose interest in sexual activities or positions where they have little control of how quickly they'll cum. Fast and hard fucking delivers that same powerful burst it always did, but the payoff suddenly feels too brief, even disappointing, after you've become accustomed to those long, blissful waves. You'll likely hunger for more activities where you control the friction around your dick.

When you start hitting the multiple cum zone with regularity, you'll develop an entirely new relationship with your body, and you should communicate your new likes and dislikes to your partner. Don't expect her to know what's going on inside your body. Don't force her to read your mind.

By the same token, she'll likely encounter her own changes. If you transform from a wham-bam stud into a slow and sensuous lovegod, she'll have some adjusting to do. It's not always smooth sailing. While women generally prefer a more sensuous, intimate, and emotional style of sex, not all do. Some may miss the hard pounding sessions and won't want you to change. Learn to negotiate and compromise.

You may experience other surprises. For instance, you may discover that when you're swept away in orgasmic waves, ordinary talking becomes difficult, especially when you're prone to meditative or trance behavior. Talking in grunts and moans may become far easier. You may also discover a compelling urge to fall asleep after a long orgasmic ride; some women think falling asleep after orgasm is rude.

When you learn about multiple orgasms with a partner, experiment. Masturbate together, watching each other in the throes of self-pleasure, and verbally share later what you learn. Over time, you can integrate what you learn into your menu of sexual delights.

When you bring your orgasmic skills into a new relationship, you probably need to explain the primary features of your uncommon sexual approach. Explain that slow sex is good-that even being motionless is good, especially during orgasmic firestorms. Explain that an ejaculation isn't the pinnacle of sexual pleasure-some women will try to pop you off fast thinking you love it most.

Probably the most challenging aspect of multiple orgasms with a partner is getting timing and control in sync. During sex when controlling your ejaculation urge, you'll also need to factor in what your partner may do. If she unexpectedly squeezes your cock with her vaginal muscles and you aren't prepared, that one contraction may send you over the top. Same thing if she starts thrashing. Men often get weird when their orgasms misfire. The brain goes nuts. It's really no big deal, but at the moment, it feels like a gushing disappointment. When that happens, try to take it in stride. Don't blame your lover for messing up your fun (some men do).

There are two major antidotes for misfires. The first is learning through masturbation everything you can about your own orgasms. Learn through experience the best techniques for controlling ejaculations. The second antidote is sharing with your partner what's happening with your body. Communicate. Tell her what you want and encourage her to do the same. The more you know about each other, the better you can respond.

Getting in sync also means sharing with your partner your thoughts and feelings about your sexual relationship. Unlike porn fantasies where everyone gets nasty to the max on cue, people in real life have deep and profound feelings about sex, both good and bad. You need to know about much more than your partner's body to truly make love. Jump into her mind.

Don't let the dangling carrot of multiple orgasms turn you into a Robodick obsessed with sexual performance. It's really not about how many orgasms you can produce. It's much more about what happens in your minds when you're in this natural (albeit largely under-reported) state of sexual ecstasy.

Sex education, both in schools and the media, rarely touches upon the true potential of sexual beauty lauded by artists and erotic pioneers. For instance, Victorian-era psychologist Havelock Ellis wrote, "Sexual pleasure, widely used and not abused, may prove the stimulus and liberation of our finest and most exalted activities."

What he's saying-true now as then-is that sexual sharing can lead us into amazing states of consciousness. But to get there, you have to broaden your sexual horizons beyond ordinary thinking about sex and open yourself to new experiences and insights.

For example, be open to strong emotional responses during multiple orgasm fests. If you or your lover burst into tears, let it be. If your love bubbles over, let it be. If you feel yourself drifting off in daydreams, go with it. If it feels good, do it.

Five or more minutes of orgasmic bliss is a sublime way to enter a natural state of altered consciousness. If you have any experience with creative visualization, meditation, light trancing, or deep relaxation, use it. Eastern spiritual practices like tantra merge the erotic with the spiritual, but you don't have to study mysticism to experience deep joy.

On the other hand, if you're not in the mood for esoteric states of consciousness, you can simply savor the pure rush of orgasm after orgasm. It's one of the nicest gifts that the human body presents its owner.