A Master's love

There are two kinds of love as far as I'm concerned, conditional and unconditional.. We need to always be loved unconditionally in our everyday lives and tasks with our Masters.. We need to know that if we burn dinner or let a red shirt end up in the white wash that he will still love us.. those things are not a part of our submission, that is just life in general.. most of use, are very capable of running our own lives, and wish to do so without fear of discipline for minor life mistakes.. to me, that is unconditional love, "I will love you even though you can't make spaghetti sauce the way my mother did." But, the second kind of love, conditional love.. that is where we as submissives need to know that we do have a responsibility to our Master, that our overall performance, attitude and actions are something we will be accountable to our Masters for.. conditional love is our D/s lives we live.. we, as subs want to earn that love.. that is part of us being a submissive.. we need to know that if we are not pleasing for whatever reasons, that we will be held accoutable for that.. and that we do risk any, and all forms for punishment, and/or discipline.. anywhere from being put in the corner for an hour, to be released.. Please Masters/Doms, let us earn that love from you, but always love us for who we are in our daily lives..

I am a submissive, but, I am also a human being.. I might even be a mother to children, I am a friend to my friends, and I am a daughter to my parents.. there is more to us than just being a submissive.. we need to be respected as women, as your friend, your lover, and maybe the mother to your children.. But, those are things that are outside of our D/s relationship.. Inside our relationship, we still need to be respected, and we need to know that when we are at your feet, or tied to a bed unable to move, or performing publically for you in a crowded room, that you are proud of who and what we are.. and that you respect our position.. and you are very in tune with the emotional and mental joys and anguishes that each of those acts bring us... I have seen many "Doms and Masters" that think being a Dominant means they can boss women around.. this isn't about being rude and bossy.. Please Masters/Doms .. let us know that you respect, appreciate and are in fact in tune with our feelings.. take some weekly time and talk with your submissive.. let her know you respect all she does for you..

Treasure your submissive.... let her know that you love her.. there are many ways you can do this.. and the more ways you show her, the closer your relationship will grow and blossom..It is nice to hear "I love you".. but, don't forget about the deep emotional aspects of this lifestyle.. One of the best ways to show your submissive that you love her, is to take what she is offering to you..She has a gift.. for you... if you don't take it all.. she will probably become insecure in the relationship.. We talk a lot about D/s being a lifestyle that involves the heart, mind, body and soul.. Those are the areas that you need to take from her.. Many times, I have talked with submissives that say they don't feel their Master's take what they are offering.. they don't feel loved or treasured.. It is very important that you spend good quality talks with your partner.. know her needs and desires in all areas.. what is it she needs to be taken from her heart, her mind, her soul, and her body.. Don't just take those areas and wrap them up as one package.. look at them each as individual gifts.. take them from her.. take all she is willing to give, and then even a tiny bit more.. leave her drained, and hungry for more..

For me, this is the one area that many Masters/Doms fail to see.. as your slave/sub .. let us feel like we belong to you.. this goes with the above area, being treasured.. take us.. MAKE us yours .. Once we do belong to you, continue to nurture our submission.. perfect us.. mold and form us to be more pleasing and fulfilling to your needs and desires.. This might be a bad analogy, but it's the best I can think of on short notice: You go to the nursery and purchase a pack of flower seeds, soil and planting pot.. you lovlingly and protectively plant the seeds, you give it just the right amount of sunshine, enough water .. one day.. after all your devoted attention, you notice the sprout.. Now, that sprout needs different nurturing an attention than the seeds did.. you comply.. and then one day you see the buds.. again, the buds need different nurturing and attention than the seeds and the sprouts.. the same when your seeds in the planting pot become flowers... The same is true with submissives, our needs change.. not always because of our growth in our submission, but just because we, as people, go through changes our whole life.. Please, be very aware of where your submissive is emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually in her life.. Always keep her wanting more though.. Keep her on the edge.. don't ever let contentment be the end of your relationship.. Remember that she is a submissive.. and do things out of the blue, for no reason at all.. call her to you and tell her to kneel... reach down and tell her that you love her as your carress her cheek... keep her in the state she craves to be.. After all, if you want a submissive woman, then it is up to you to make, and keep her that...

"We need a Master that will love, respect, treasure and nurture our submission"

--This text has been given to many a newcomer wanting information on the lifestyle and wanting to learn more about how to become better in their roles. I don't know the original source of this text, but many many thanks to the author for writing it and making it available!