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- DON'T respond with a one or two line response! There's NO way you can make yourself seem interesting in a short note. If the ad isn't worth taking your time in answering,
don't bother responding. DO Take your time in your letter. Respond to what the person said about his/her self and write about yourself and why you think you may be what they're looking for.
- DON'T make unreasonable demands on them. DO keep in mind that yours isn't the only response they've received.
--believe it or not.. when I placed an ad, I received many many responses in which the person assumed that I was now THEIR sub just because they answered, or that my first letter back
to them in response to their letter should include detailed personal information about things a stranger has no business asking about.
Needless to say.. they made it into the recycle bin without an answer.
- DON'T give out personal information right away.. DO use an anonymous mail service or mail re-router to respond to ads if possible.
- If you are a male or dominant, keep in mind that you want the advertiser to feel intrigued NOT scared about what type of person you are.
- DON'T expect or demand a reply to your letter the same day or the next. DO give the advertiser a chance to receive your letter (there is often a delay in forwarding mail through the sites
or through the re-mailers) and to read and reply to all the letters they receive. If you don't receive a response within a week, you can send another letter better describing yourself. --
Keep in mind.. sometimes mail is never received due to problems with servers and sites. A second letter a few days or a week later can also help seperate you from the "masses".
So you received a good response or a dozen to your ad... or you responded to one and have heard back:
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